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From films and TV shows to social media, it seems that conceiving a child is the easiest thing in the world. For some this may be true, but for many couples, getting pregnant seems almost impossible.

Those who are determined to have a baby often face an emotionally difficult journey as they embark on the road to parenthood. And so they seek the help and guidance from fertility specialists, convinced modern technology will help them create the family they’ve been dreaming of. They begin treatments with the hope that one of them will finally take.

Along the way, they will almost certainly feel a myriad of emotions, from shame and guilt to fear and sadness. Mental exhaustion and strain on the relationship are common as well.

If you are going through your own infertility struggles and can relate to all of this, here are some tips to help you navigate the journey:

You’re Not Alone

If all of your friends are having babies, your relatives have had babies, and it seems like the whole world (but you) is having babies, understand that you are not alone. In fact, according to the CDC, one in eight couples in America struggles to get pregnant or sustain a pregnancy.

Do Your Homework

Before beginning infertility treatments, be sure you do some solid research. You want to look for not only a clinic with a track record of live birth outcomes that is attached to excellent labs, you also want to find a doctor that you connect with and feel comfortable with. Ask your OBGYN to connect you with someone. You may also want to ask around your group of friends to find a personal recommendation.


The healthier you are, the better your chances of becoming pregnant. It’s easy to let stress build-up, and then give in to those comfort food cravings or skip the gym. But now is the best time to take optimal care of your mind, body, and spirit. Eat whole foods including lots of fresh fruit and veggies, drink plenty of water, and get plenty of rest. Stay physically fit with exercise such as walking, cycling, or yoga. Reduce stress by practicing mindfulness, relaxation skills, and avoiding toxic people and situations. Whatever you do, be sure to prioritize your well-being.

Counseling Can Help

You may also find it helpful to speak with a therapist who can help you navigate the powerful emotions you and your partner are feeling. A skilled therapist can also help you develop strong coping, relaxation, and self-care skills. We have several counselors here at Deepwater Counseling who specialize in helping couples who are struggling with infertility stay positive and mentally healthy. They’d love to help you, too! Contact us here for more information or to schedule an appointment.